My mom, Shirley, is 90 with Alzheimer’s disease. She is still living in the house where she grew up, thanks to the efforts of my family. My sister Nancy has a very special place in Shirley’s life. She is amazing. She works for the post office; does many extra fund raising activities, and volunteers for many different places. I swear she has 36 hours in one of her days. And so many friends I have lost count.
Yet with all that she does, she takes such special and loving care of Shirley. Each weekend, she visits and brings Shirley something special and fun. Her generosity is unsurpassed. She spends quality time with Shirley, they watch TV, talk, play a game. She will always bring her a special treat to eat. On Holidays, she brings the meals to my mom’s house, so Shirley can celebrate the day, even though she does not really know what day it is. She always makes sure the house is clean.
These are physical things. Emotionally, she is always upbeat, vivacious, smiling, and laughing along with my mom. Her presence is such a bright spot in my mom’s life. When she makes my mom laugh, the joy fills the room. Her husband is there, also, adding his special touch to the visits.
Nancy’s heart is so full of love and giving it astounds me. When she smiles and laughs, her heart opens and the caring and tenderness flow all around. From her heart straight to Shirley’s. Even with Alzheimer’s, I know that, even if my mom cannot acknowledge these feelings on a conscious level, her mind, emotions, and heart are filled to overflowing with love.
Nancy will always include Shirley in the prep of the festivities. My mom could never just sit there. So, she and Nancy will do the things together, and my mom can feel once again that she is a normal and important part of things.
My own heart is full of love and admiration for my sister: Thanks, Nancy, I love you!!
Pawtucket, RI
